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Reasons Happen for a Thing

Tuesday, March 9th, 2010

Philip A. Gonzales 

Reasons Happen for a Thing

Reasons Happen for a Thing

For years, I tried to believe that things happen for a reason. I performed some uncomfortable mental contortions in an attempt to fit that idea into my cranium. Didn’t work; I still don’t get it. The term “for a reason” means that there is an answer to the question “Why?” So to complete the statement “Things happen for a reason… ” I had to say “… but nobody will ever know the reason.” For what reason does genocide happen? For what reason did that plane crash? For what reason will an avalanche fill her belly with that little mountain village? I give up. Turns out that our cognition is miraculous in taking us through the pleasures and perils of life. 

Things happen. We sense the things that are happening. That’s cognition. But then comes our metacognition. It’s all over the map. Yes, things do happen. Life is not messy; chocolate is messy. Life is perilous. And we want to know why. When the largest Tsunami in human history hit Alaska, there were three boats in its path. One sank. The other two rode the crest of that 1,700-foot wave and the occupants survived. Our inner beings want to ride the crest of the bad stuff that happens, so we ask “why”. Just the act of searching for a reason gives us a feeling of rising above the struggles; it drives us toward refinement of our mental suvival skills. It’s very useful. There is hardly ever a clear answer, but we try to make survival more of a certainty by looking for reasons. 

Reasons happen for a thing. Reasons and things happen almost simultaneously, but your brain begins to create the reasons within a very small fraction of a second after an occurrence that requires your attention. If you are using your senses to recognize the true nature of the world around you, then attention happens. Attention requires the use of three parts of your brain: the sensory, the emotional, and the action centers. It’s called the Triangular Circuit of Attention. Right alongside all this raw perception and attention, your left hemisphere chimes in as the “spin doctor”, in the words of psychologist Steven Pinker of Harvard University. That’s when the reasons happen, and they play a leading role in your survival. The more dangerous, confusing, or bizarre the occurrence, the faster your brain will kick into action searching for an explanation. New York University’s Joseph LeDoux (LeDoux Lab) has performed research that reveals the brain functions that arise as we cause reasons to happen for a thing. Author Laurence Gonzales (Deep Survival, Everyday Survival), writing in National Geographic Adventure, surveys the work of Pinker and LeDoux. Um, yes… he is my brother. 

I remain open-minded. An explanation of how things can happen for a reason would hold my interest. I believe in God. But I think that the power of God is revealed in the patterns of our universe that, by their very precision, strike us as being largely random. In light of all the science that illustrates how reasons happen, I’m feeling pretty good about this little survival mechanism that’s been given to us. We live in a world of change, but we try to establish comfortable patterns. It’s in our nature to try to make the rough places plain. Peace is not inherent in nature, but we strive to create peace in our minds. Still, there is a looming question: Can I create peace in a healthy mind that recognizes all of the realities that my senses report? 

As your “spin doctor” comes up with reasons, allow it to lead you toward a deeper understanding of your own responses to what happens, without judgement. Steven Pinker also calls the left side of the brain a “baloney generator”. Well, it’s up to you to determine whether your left hemisphere is going to generate baloney, or to provide you with an incisive frame of thought as you happen to your own life.

What Is “Normal”?

Friday, January 15th, 2010

Monica Gomez

Antonio and Thomas Meet

Antonio and Thomas Meet

Kids with Down Syndrome are said to be “so affectionate and loving”. Being the mother of one, I think it’s not exactly so. It’s not that they are affectionate and angelically loving just as a characteristic of their condition. They have mental retardation, which means that their minds do not develop in the way our minds typically do. That implies that they do not have all the inhibitions that we do.

Typically, a child who starts socializing in kindergarten learns what’s polite and what’s not; what to do and what not to do. You kiss the people your Mum tells you to. You stay away from strangers. Kids with Down Syndrome are not born with that learning ability, so they act according to what they feel, regardless of whether it is socially acceptable or not. I could tell many funny anecdotes about that, but the one that comes to mind happened on a plane when I was flying with my son from Buenos Aires to New York. Tommy was three years old then. I stood up to take him to the toilet. There was a woman some rows behind. She saw that I was picking up a child, and put on the face that says, “Oh how nice, here comes a little child.” When we went past her, she saw his Down Syndrome face, and was shocked. But to cover that shock she uttered, “Ohhhhh, they’re soooo affectionate!” At that exact moment, Tommy slapped her face. My “normal” socialized mind made me say, “No, Tommy, you don’t do that.” However, I secretly wanted to congratulate him. He had understood what this woman was feeling, and he acted accordingly. It was his response to her stupidity.

As you see, instead of acting rationally, he acts with his heart. Now, what’s normal in that situation; following your mind, or following your heart? Where is “normality” written down? Sometimes I have an image of Tommy and people like him looking at us and saying, “Poor little creatures. They suffer from an overdose of mental analysis, and in doing so, they’re missing the basic and wonderful things on Earth” I think that all people with disabilities are different. Oh, yes, they definitely are. But different in what sense?

Let me explain. To me, they are different in the sense that they’ve dealt with tragedy at least once in their lives, and they not only carried on but also overcame daily challenges that are unimaginable to us “normals”. I think that all those experiences give them a completely different point of view of life. Everyday chores that we take for granted, like making coffee or using the toilet, can be a real challenge for these people. Not to mention social acceptance, financial trouble and so on.

So that’s what makes them special. I don’t use the word “special” the way it is usually used by people without disabilities. Some say, “a person with different abilities” instead of “disabled”. However you call it, they live with tremendous challenges! The fact of facing these tribulations every single day provides a kind of maturity and consciousness that we “normals” don’t have. I think we have a lot to learn from “special people”, which they are! Their hearts vibrate at a different rate. I myself learn a lot from my son and my friends Vivian and Ann, who suffered from back injuries and are in wheelchairs. And I humbly thank them for that.

If only we normal people could open up to diversity and be ready to take what others have to offer, the world could become a more peaceful place in which to live.